We’re not sure who “they” are, but there are certainly things “they” don’t tell you about getting engaged. Most women dream about it from time they’re small, but if you think about it, this life-changing moment can quickly become stressful after the novelty wears off. Hindsign is 20-20, and there are things all of us wish we would have known when (insert dramatic life moment here). Take a look at the things people fail to realize when they’re caught up in the excitement of their own engagement!
- Staring at your Hands: Maybe he wasn’t coy enough to get you a gift certificate for a manicure before he popped the question, but once it’s done, head to the salon stat! Everyone will be staring at your hands because they want to see your ring, so keep your hands looking fantastic.
- You Will Tell Your Proposal Story Over and Over: When it’s happening, you won’t be able to imagine telling the story to enough people. That is, until you tell the story for the 100th time. Think about chronicling your proposal on your wedding website, on a blog, or on Facebook and send out the link. That way, people can relive your moment at their leisure!
- “When is the big day?”: The likelihood of getting asked this question within 24 hours of getting engaged is high, and you might as well get used to it. You’re going to be asked about the specifics well before you’ve had a chance to think about it. Remember: everyone is excited, so come up with a blanket statement like, “We’re just having fun being engaged right now. We’re going to figure things out in the coming months”
- Someone Might Not Be As Excited As You Had Hoped: Let’s face it…you can’t please everyone, and someone is bound to be jealous or unsupportive about your engagement. You can plan for it. But remember, this isn’t a reflection of you, so don’t dwell on negative feedback.
- Unsolicited Advice: Friends who are already married may have some unsolicited advice for you. It’s not uncommon for people to think they’re experts or wedding planners after getting married, but take their opinions with a grain of salt. They’re likely dishing because they spent so much time planning their own wedding and they miss that excitement. If you agree with their advice, take it. If not, don’t sweat it.