Dealing With Divorced Parents at Your Wedding

If yours or your fiancé’s parents are divorced, it can cause a lot of anxiety when you’re planning a wedding. Where do you seat everyone? Will they get along? This is your big day, and you shouldn’t be playing the role of mediator while at the same time reciting your vows. Here are some tips for dealing with divorced parents at your wedding!

  1. Treat Parents Like Adults: It seems silly, but what you should do is treat your parents how they should behave. Adults are, by and large, reasonable creatures, but sometimes they have their moments. If your Dad has his heart set on walking you down the aisle but is afraid your Mom will want her new husband to do it, nip it in the bud from the start. Sit them down and tell them how it’s going to be. Remind them you’re not taking sides, and move on.
  2. You Too Should Act Like an Adult: No tantrums, no screaming, etc… This doesn’t mean allowing yourself to be bullied into something you don’t want, but you will have to lead by example in some regards and act like an adult in front of your divorced parents. You can’t change their behavior, but if you change your own, eventually it will rub off on them.
  3. Remember Their Intentions: Hopefully, both sets of parents have your best interests at heart, but remember that each set of parents can have different ideas of what that means. Remind them that you love them both and are really happy that they’re both going to be there to celebrate with you, and that’s all that you want.
  4. Don’t Let Their Failed Marriage Reflect On Your Big Day: Remember, this is your big day and your future marriage has nothing to do with theirs that broke-up. Keep in mind what makes your relationship great, and enjoy your wedding day!

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